So, there used to be a time when your maid of honour or bridesmaids would plan meticulously the hen event in full. From the fake veil, the learner plates and potty, to the larger items like limo hire and meal booked for 25 guests and then some! It was a headache actually and the fall outs from planning these events must have been huge and I can imagine lots of unhappy and dare I say it, bridezillas out there not at all happy with the plans made for them, they don’t just want a packet of pork scratching in the local pub with sticky carpets and luke warm spirit with a dash of mixer.
After all this, I’m not at all surprised that I now see a huge trend of hens booking their own cocktail parties and hen events, our ladies know what they like so I’m sure they just want to get what they enjoy, freshly prepared cocktails, decent labels, and most of all banter with their closest friends and family members but also their Cocktail Queen, we never say we’re there to make the party, but we’ll certainly enhance it, as my own hen party (back in 2002) was a bit (lot) of a disaster, I know how important this is to a hen, it’s her ‘last official girls night out’, or nowadays weekend away, with her ladies, her last ditch of freedom and a chance to create a really special occasion that not only she will remember but everyone else will too!
2 years ago I hosted a hen’s party that the hen has since died, and although it’s still a very sad time, having video and photo’s of this to treasure makes it nice rest for the rest of the group to look back on, the laughter, smiles, and dancing in the kitchen made for a great night I’m sure will be looked on fondly now.
As a bridesmaid or guest what can you do?
Okay maybe the ‘bride to be’ has organised everything, but there’s still nothing to stop you all chipping in and buying a special gift or something she will love, or even just asking if something needs anything taken charge of, it’s stressful being a hen nowadays, with wedding planning, keeping check of the to do lists and added headaches of people falling out or complaining about aspects of everything and trying to keep everyone happy, the best thing you can do is just be there for her.